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Just Joined [Jun. 23rd, 2008|04:53 am]
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What a wonderful idea for a community!
I've always been happiest when I was one.  In fact the truth of the matter is, the only time in my life I was ever lonely was when I was married. (I've been divorced for a LONG time - so I am hoping one horribly rotten marriage won't keep me out of the club) 
The truth is I seem to do better on my own.  I like having a cute little apartment decorated the way I want it to be decorated. I can eat what I want for dinner, I can watch the movies I want,  (oddly enough I love chick flick movies.)  I like having my own life. It's small and it's humble, but it's mine.  I used to think it was because I was an only child. That because of that I needed my alone time more then other girls. Then I realized that I just really love my oneness.
The hardest thing for me is dealing with friends and family. Isn't it funny about how the people that have made the worst decisions and have "wrecked"  their lives  because the "needed" a man so badly  that it didn't matter if it was the worst kind of man they were getting are the ones that are the harshest?
So hurray - I look forward to being a part of the house! .  
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A Day In The Life of A Spinster [May. 18th, 2008|11:37 pm]
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Brittney and Alyssa Show
A Day In The Life Of A Young Spinster
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Introduction... [Feb. 1st, 2008|11:00 am]
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At almost 32 years of age, I own a house, have a good job, and haven't been able to hold a relationship for longer then 3 months. Perhaps this is the wrong group for me, but I'm at the point in life where I'm trying to come to terms with that I'll be single for the rest of my life, and looking for advice/support? I'm an independent woman, and don't need a partner to define me, but how do you deal with the every day social pressure? Don't you get frustrated and wish for once you didn't have to make your own dinner at night, or order it. That there was someone there to be a support to you? I know it wouldn't be so bad if I didn't watch my friends slipping away, moving away, or becoming married. The people you once found so comfortable to hang out with, are now unbearable because your the 'third wheel' all the time. How do you deal with such? How do you find other single females in your area to hang out with that are not looking for men?
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(no subject) [Dec. 16th, 2007|02:43 pm]
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I've created another community called marriagenot4me

I hope its ok to self promote

please feel free to post
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Hello [Oct. 9th, 2007|10:16 pm]
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I'm new to the community, and thought I should introduce myself.

I've been single for most of my life, and have been referred to as a spinster since the age of fourteen. I think this mostly stems from the fact that I have threatened to castrate boys with  seatbelts should they try anything with me. That, and  I usually prefer reading books or watching movies to actually dealing with people.  I have dated, but it's rare, and I'm honestly a lot happier on my own; I'm a fiercely independent person, and I need room to breathe. Besides, I've found that fictional men are better than the real ones anyways. 

That's all for now.

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Book Recommendation! [Sep. 16th, 2007|12:43 pm]
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So as an archaeology PhD student with a focus on gender studies, I read a ridiculous amount of scholarly articles and books. Perhaps some of you out there might enjoy this one in particular:

The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution by Elisabeth A. Lloyd.


Frankly it's pretty freaking fantastic.
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Just Joined!!! [Jul. 17th, 2007|07:56 pm]
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[Current Mood |peacefulpeaceful]

I saw this community and I thought "FINALLY!!!" I joined so I can vent a bit, find some support, join like-minded females, and help breathe some new life into this place.

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(no subject) [Jun. 22nd, 2007|07:32 pm]
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[Current Mood |happyhappy]

hello~ i hope that nobody minds seeing this crossposted a couple times~ i am a 28~year~old spinster in search of like~minded friends. if my profile and journal grab your interest at all, please consider adding me. it would be nice to make some new friends with this huge part of me in common. i'd also love to see these comms get active again, and would be happy to help out.

thanks for reading this post, and have a beautiful day.~
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New Member Here [Feb. 28th, 2006|08:29 pm]
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YAY for the Spinster House!! I love it!

I found it in a pre-Valentine's Day frenzy & terror & it brightened up my day!

Why indeed the idea that women would have to get married at any cost?
I told that to my Dad when I was 12 or so, arguing that a woman CAN be happy otherwise too (we had an extremely cool Chemistry teacher, who was 40-ish, and single) and he retorted angrily with 'Who will want you anyway?'

He implied my temper, character, my whole personality... my whole being... ME... just wasn't 'good enough' or was too 'difficult'. He had three older sisters and apparently felt threatened by dominant woman (his marrying one didn't seem to help much either). Of course, I know that now. I didn't then.
I thought I was really a horrible person and would never get a man.

Why do men feel threatened by the idea of (happily) single women?
The whole culture seems to be so against the notion.
In the old days, unmarried aunts etc. were important members of a family, taking care of kids... helping at the farm... But they had an extremely low status, mostly. Much like that of (poorly paid) maidservants. Nowadays it isn't necessarily so, but still...

Of course, now he denies ever saying a thing like that.
And regrets not having grandchildren, or a son-in-law.
Recently this came up, and I said, 'Well, I believed you.' Kids believe so many stupid things they hear from their parents, or teachers, or other grown-ups.

Seeing what fun marriage seemed to be to my always-quarrelling parents & getting my first boyfriend critisised & rejected thoroughly didn't help much either.

I'm still learning to not believe what he said. As if a good man were a 'reward' after you learnt to be 'almost perfect' or at least happy with your life and comfortable in your skin.
And then you see the kind of women that do get (good) men!! Aargh!! Ah well...

Looking forward to learning a lot from you fellow spinsters!! ;)

Hope you've had a fun day!
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in honor of national spinster awareness day [Feb. 14th, 2006|01:10 pm]
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[Current Mood |3rd grader]

Single girl, oh single girl
She's gone anywhere she please
Oh, gone anywhere she please
Married girl, oh married girl
Got a baby on her knees
Oh, got a baby on her knees

Single girl, oh single girl
She's going dressed up so fine
Oh going dressed up so fine
Married girl, oh, married girl
She wears any kind
Oh, she wears just kind

Single girl, oh single girl
She goes to the store and buys
Oh goes to the store and buys
Married girl, oh, married girl
She rocks the cradle and cries
Oh, rocks the cradle and cries

Single girl, oh single girl
She lays in bed 'til one
Oh lays in bed 'til one
Married girl, oh, married girl
She's up before the sun
Oh, up before the sun

Single girl, oh single girl
She's looking for a man
Oh looking for a man
Married girl, oh, married girl
She's got her wedding band
Oh, got her wedding band

...she might have her weddin' band, but we have something much more ____ (so amazing i can't even type out the adjective in question): our spinster sisterdom! asexuals rule.
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