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Introduction... [Feb. 1st, 2008|11:00 am]
The Spinster House


At almost 32 years of age, I own a house, have a good job, and haven't been able to hold a relationship for longer then 3 months. Perhaps this is the wrong group for me, but I'm at the point in life where I'm trying to come to terms with that I'll be single for the rest of my life, and looking for advice/support? I'm an independent woman, and don't need a partner to define me, but how do you deal with the every day social pressure? Don't you get frustrated and wish for once you didn't have to make your own dinner at night, or order it. That there was someone there to be a support to you? I know it wouldn't be so bad if I didn't watch my friends slipping away, moving away, or becoming married. The people you once found so comfortable to hang out with, are now unbearable because your the 'third wheel' all the time. How do you deal with such? How do you find other single females in your area to hang out with that are not looking for men?

[User Picture]From: duskblue
2008-02-10 10:53 pm (UTC)
Hey! Welcome! Sorry for the late reply :)

What I do to avoid social pressure is look at all of the shining examples around me. How many people do you know in really good relationships? Even the ones that SEEM to be good have their problems. There is no such thing as the perfect, all romantic relationship. It's all a lie that people want you to buy so you can become just as miserable as they are.

Another thing I do is check out pages like this: http://www.truemomconfessions.com and http://www.truedadconfessions.com From what people are saying on there, being married with kids does NOT sound like a walk in the park. It sounds like a complete nightmare!!!

However, it's hard to find people of the same mindset as me. I have one single, childfree friend... and have a lot of trouble meeting more. What area do you live in? Perhaps we're near each other :) I live in the Twin Cities.

Again, welcome!
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